How to cope with a break-up

Head up and get yourself together, it's time to move on. Here's below some strong tips to get you stronger and leave the past behind for good. It's time for a cleaning in your heart and mind.

1. There is no deadline for geting over your ex, no matter who says what says.  So don't try to force it to end too early, it’ll just be worse. Let your sadness breathe and go away in its own natural rhythm.

2. If you keep saying to yourself it's over all day long, you probably aren’t, since you keep that in your mind constantly.

3. You need to immediately cut any connections with your ex (at least for a while), to be able to fully move on. It’s better than Facebooking him when you’re lonely.

4. Try not to blame yourself for failing in this relationship. It was both of you involved, therefore don't put all the blame on you, which brings you that guilty feeling.

5. No drunk communication. Maybe you’ve memorized his number, in which case you give your phone to your friend every time you get drunk. Unfortunately, you might have to learn this the hard way, after repeatedly having stomach-churning emotionally charged conversations that you will regret in the morning.

6. Don't let Hollywood trick you into continuing to communicate with this person, you might look desperate, especially since he's moved on.

7. His new girlfriend is a complete stranger to you, don't hold a grudge on her. Lashing out at women who have done nothing wrong, even just obsessing about his new girlfriend with your friends, is not who you are.

8. If you spent most of your time upset, nervous, or concerned about this person while you were dating, it’s much better that it’s over. Louis CK has a bit that’s like: “Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it's true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce”. People should be congratulating you for getting out of an unhealthy relationship and you should feel sort of relieved, really!

9. This end of your relationship will make you wiser. You will realize what you want and don’t want for your next relationship.

10. Your worth is not tied to another person. No matter who they are.

11. And he’s not as amazing and unforgettable as you think he is. He's just ordinary!

12. Anyone who can stay friends with their ex is either the Dalai Lama or didn’t really love them that much as a significant other to begin with.

13. Turning the breakup emotions into a positive drive (e.g.: working out, excelling at work, cleaning your home) rather than a negative drive (e.g.: drinking too much, smoking too much, wallowing, having sex with a guy with a soul patch) is so much better in the long run.

14. It didn't work because it wasn’t right. This is the most important lesson, because it'll help you move on and find a partner who is right for you.